Permission to Mourn: A New Way to do Grief – Tom Zuba


I came across this book a little before the first anniversary of my son’s passing. It really touched me deeply, much more than any other book I had read until then. I contacted Tom Zuba and I spoke to him every week for an hour on Skype for a few months, before joining his online ‘holidays’ group over the Christmas season. Tom is a very special person I now consider a dear friend. I know I was guided to him by my son. Tom and his book marked a turning point in my grief journey. I would love to translate his book into Spanish one day, so that it can reach more people.

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The death of someone we love cracks us open inviting us to become the person we were born to be. This is the book Tom Zuba wishes he had read after his daughter Erin died. And after his wife Trici died. It’s the book he wishes he’d been handed following his son Rory’s death. But Tom had to live it. First. Before he could write it. For you. In the beginning, Tom did grief the old way. Repressing, denying, pretending, numbing and stuffing every feeling and every emotion that arose. He created pain on top of pain until he began searching for a new way. A new way to do grief. Once he gave himself permission to mourn, healing began. Along the way, Tom discovered that: * Grief is not the enemy. Grief can be one of our greatest teachers. * It’s the stories we tell that determine whether or not we will heal. * We will always have a relationship with the people we love that have died. * We were not born to suffer. We were born to be radiant. There is a new way to do grief. Let Tom Zuba teach you how.